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Covid-19: Containment in an uncontained time

Hello everyone. I wanted to send a brief message out today, to let you all know that I will be working full-time, my usual hours, and will be offering online psychotherapeutic support through this time as well as face-to-face therapy. For my part, and yes, I feel nervous too, I would like to be able…
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There is such a thing as society: Locked down and opening up

I genuinely never imagined that I would quote Boris Johnson, and I’m certainly not doing so for the sake of putting forward a personal political affiliation. But, in a recent public statement, Johnson said that the Covid-19 crisis has proved one thing, which is there really is such a thing as society. Over the past…
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Repetition compulsion: Why do we repeat the past?

Have you ever asked yourself, “Why does so-and-so keep going for the same type of partner even though their parents were abusive?” It may be a repetition compulsion. This is a Freudian concept on which we seek the familiar; he describes it as “the desire to return to an earlier state of things.” It’s a neurotic…
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Shame and the couple

In a recent blog post, I wrote about the sense of shame in our personal lives. I want to add a bit more to that by following through into considering shame in the relationship between partners. In the first post on shame, I described it as an indigestible and uncontainable emotion. Much like panic, deep…
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